The Equestrian Wife

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It’s January and it’s time to sit down and collect our goals for the year. Most equestrians only have to focus on their personal goals and what they’d like their year to look like. In the case of being 1/2 of an equestrian couple, it’s a team effort. Decisions such as what classes are we doing this year are broken down into “which ones can one person enter and which ones can… Read More

This show season has been a whirlwind ride and I’ve learned quite a lot. I started my year off with a lot of changes – mostly my horse change. We began leasing Jim in February and purchased him in May. Our shows went from end of April to our last 2 dressage shows coming up next month. Needless to say, we didn’t have a ton of time to get used to Jim… Read More

These past few weeks have been all about respect for me. Jack and I have returned to a bit of groundwork focusing on respect and a bit more communication. He has gotten sassier as the winter has dragged on and it’s only the beginning of what may be a long New England cold snap. But it’s been making me think about how respect also works in my marriage and showing mutual appreciation… Read More

In a mere couple of hours, 2017 will be gone and we will enter into 2018. These last few hours are a perfect time for reflection and how our year has been. It’s a time to look at the highs and the lows and consider what we have learned from each day. For me, the beginning of 2017 seems like ages ago. I began my year not even having ridden Jack yet… Read More

My morning today was almost comical it was so terrible. After waking up after our alarms and both exhausted, my husband and I knew it was just “one of those mornings.” Trying to get him out to work on time, he had a thermos of coffee. After eating breakfast at the table, he walked away leaving the thermos. Well up came the cat and when I tried to shoo him away, proceeded… Read More

I learned a tough lesson today, but an important one. That’s the importance of confidence; not only under saddle, but in my marriage. It’s that take a deep breathe, you can do it, focus kind of attitude. Under saddle today I learned it from Jack. He has no confidence so therefore he looks to me to provide the security and comfort he needs to perform what I ask of him. I tend… Read More

One of the things my husband and I take on every week is a selection of barn chores. From mucking out stalls, watering, feeding and typical clean up, the extra money is a nice touch for our monthly bill. But it also takes an incredible amount of teamwork to be able to accomplish. Picture this: 11 stalls of horses needing to be mucked out. Twenty-four horses to feed lunch to. Sweeping, emptying… Read More

With springtime finally coming to New England, the discussion is now on show season. In a fortunate-unfortunate scenario, both my husband and I enjoy showing. The problem? Sharing a horse. We began negotiations about how to work show season out and eventually came to a compromise. The key to the answer was simply the fact that I am currently riding Jack while my husband is not yet. However, since Jack hasn’t been… Read More