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While browsing through the site the other day, I realized it’s been awhile since I gave an update on life with my husband and Jim. I have to say things have been going well. Recently I discovered a new fun thing to do: virtual dressage shows. I compete through Dressage Show Online. They post open shows and you video your ride and enter it. They have USEF and WDAA carded judges who… Read More

Recently my husband and I found ourselves in Las Vegas on a work trip. But during the trip we had some free time and had booked ourselves a Sunset Trail Ride with Wild West Horseback Adventures. And we are so glad we did! If you’ve been following the blog, you know this is right up both of our alleys since our honeymoon was spent on a dude ranch in Pennsylvania. We had… Read More

The other day I saw a meme about what life would be like without horses and I could relate to how that feels and the pain it causes. I wasn’t always fortunate enough to be around horses as much as I am now. When I was young, I think my parents hoped horses were “just a faze.” They hoped the dozens of model horses, the endless supply of horse movies, the horse… Read More

As I mentioned in my blog post about saying goodbye to Jack, when one door closes, another opens. While I bid ado to my friend, I said hello to a new one. Down in the lower barn, at the way end of the aisle on the left sat “Jim.” He had just come to the barn in December as a lesson horse. At 15.2 hands, Jim is a solid black registered Paint…. Read More

Most people when they heard I had sold Jack consoled me. They knew how affected I was since he was my horse. But what they didn’t consider is how it affected my husband. Thomas was there since day one supporting me. He helped me fall in love with Jack from the very beginning. He was ringside when we completed our first dressage test. He was there as we worked over and over… Read More

These past few weeks have been all about respect for me. Jack and I have returned to a bit of groundwork focusing on respect and a bit more communication. He has gotten sassier as the winter has dragged on and it’s only the beginning of what may be a long New England cold snap. But it’s been making me think about how respect also works in my marriage and showing mutual appreciation… Read More

In a mere couple of hours, 2017 will be gone and we will enter into 2018. These last few hours are a perfect time for reflection and how our year has been. It’s a time to look at the highs and the lows and consider what we have learned from each day. For me, the beginning of 2017 seems like ages ago. I began my year not even having ridden Jack yet… Read More

Jack and my first show season has now come to a close. We went from me first sitting on him in February/March to now beginning work on our canter last week. We went from him never knowing a show ring to trailering off property and competing in several divisions including in-hand, trail, green horse and dressage. Overall, it was pretty darn fantastic. Tonight we went to our barn holiday party for our… Read More

My morning today was almost comical it was so terrible. After waking up after our alarms and both exhausted, my husband and I knew it was just “one of those mornings.” Trying to get him out to work on time, he had a thermos of coffee. After eating breakfast at the table, he walked away leaving the thermos. Well up came the cat and when I tried to shoo him away, proceeded… Read More

I learned a tough lesson today, but an important one. That’s the importance of confidence; not only under saddle, but in my marriage. It’s that take a deep breathe, you can do it, focus kind of attitude. Under saddle today I learned it from Jack. He has no confidence so therefore he looks to me to provide the security and comfort he needs to perform what I ask of him. I tend… Read More