Confidence under saddle and in a marriage
I learned a tough lesson today, but an important one. That’s the importance of confidence; not only under saddle, but in my marriage. It’s that take a deep breathe, you can do it, focus kind of attitude.
Under saddle today I learned it from Jack. He has no confidence so therefore he looks to me to provide the security and comfort he needs to perform what I ask of him. I tend to be an anxious person and this doesn’t get me far in my riding. The second I’m anxious, I brace and Jack acts up since he thinks there’s a reason to be anxious. It’s the herd mentality of paying attention to the leader so you know when trouble is around.
Thankfully I have some awesome trainers who are helping me tackle my anxiety, take a deep breathe, relax and focus. Once I do, surprise! Jack does what I ask of him.
Now it isn’t an easy concept and I’m sure I’ll be battling this for many, many weeks to come. There will be good days and there will be hard days. But I’ll get through them.
When it comes to my marriage, confidence helps in a lot of ways. It’s not only sexy, but it’s also a comfort to my husband. When he’s nervous about something, I can help with my confidence and help him through it. So when he’s running out the door and worried about how he looks for a promotion, I can confidently give him a kiss, tell him how amazing he looks and get him out the door on time. And this goes both ways. Sometimes I need him to be the confident one to help me out. It’s one of those things that has to go both ways. Therefore you support each other and it’s not a one-way street.
So my motto for this week is confidence. I’ll be trying to absorb it into my riding time and be confident in my home life.